I was watching “16 and Pregnant” recently and this was the exchange between a pregnant 16 year old and her mother (I’m paraphrasing):
Mother: I’m too soft, I let you get away with too much.
Pregnant 16 Year Old: I like the way you are, you’re like my friend. All the other girls, they hate their mothers.
Mother: But their daughters aren’t pregnant.
Exactly. So when/if I have a 16 year old daughter I will make sure she does not think of me as a friend and tells her friends she hates me. Then I’ll be doing my job.